I posted a thing on Facebook about supporting gay marriage. the following are some of the responses i received:
James Perryman
James Perryman at 8:51pm May 26
Ok Mike how do I say this without sounding redneck or over religious.
Fact of the matter is no "NO" other species on the planet have male and male or female and female relationships. Oh I am forgetting those frogs in africa----- but they change sex naturaly to continue the species. My point is that marrage of a couple has always been reserved for ... Read Morea male and a female as a social accepted means of having sex to create life. If you have found a way to do this in a same sex relationship I am all for it.
Otherwise live together and have a lawyer draw up a binding agreement so the serviving "Mate" or "Companion" can make decisions for the other person in the event of illness or death.
Sorry for my bluntness but you don't seem to be very shy about blurting your sexual prefferance. You will have to accept my opinion as well.
Daryle Conners at 10:03pm May 26
Marriage is a civil union, as far as laws go. No one's religion has any place in the making of our laws. Separation of church and state protects both religious rights and civil rights.
Also, you are dead wrong about there not being homosexual relationships all throughout Nature, but that's really a distraction from the issue at hand.
Marriage of a couple may be reserved for procreation in your mind, but that doesn't mean that others have to share your view. YOU can marry whoever you want for whatever reasons you want. Everyone should have that same right. Do you think that people who adopt rather than having children of their own don't have valid marriages? Do you think that people who don't choose to have children shouldn't be allowed to marry? Or have sex, for that matter? It doesn't take much to see how weak and insubstantial that argument is....
Sorry James, there is no way to say what you're saying without sounding ignorant and intolerant.
Mindy Miller at 10:05pm May 26
How DO you say that without sounding like a red neck? You dont.
Gretchen Bell
Gretchen Bell at 10:28pm May 26
TIRED ARGUMENT. NO SHIT. We hetros expect the privacy and rights to marry who we choose AND we MUST respect everyone's choice and and to whom they choose to commit to and respect that choice. If you pay the same TAXES (property, personal) like Bill and Jane next door you are entitled to the same equality and bennefits as they do. If you contribute to society like Bill and Jane you deserve the SAME. You may not like it, but whats not to like? Equality protects you, it protects me it protects everyone in a perfect world. Not accepting gay equality is denying someone who is as upstanding as you the same rights. Its discrimination. Its WRONG. EVERYONE who contributes to this nation DESERVES THE SAME RIGHTS AS EVERYONE ELSE...
Brian Scott
Brian Scott at 1:44am May 27
Dear James Perryman,
WTFiJP? I actually could have cared less about insisting on gay marriage, however it had been made an issue by politicians who have always benefited by exploiting the most base qualities that a person has against themselves. It had been a ridiculous distraction, one that kept us from discussing the rights of all people to health care, it helped us to invade and and ruin Iraq, it helped us to not review our voting system and have intelligent debate on bringing our system up to democratic standards. It has helped us not concentrate on improving education for every one. It has been a very helpful distraction.
Now that it has become a reality, it is a question of purposely denying rights to a portion of our society. That is a clean cut case of discrimination. And no binding contract will give a surviving partner the same inheritance, visitation, custody, medicare or social security benefits that a surviving spouse would enjoy.
from Delba Jean
http://seedmagazine.com/content/article/the_gay_animal_kingdom/
The Gay Animal Kingdom § SEEDMAGAZINE.COM
Source: seedmagazine.com
The effeminate sheep and other problems with Darwinian sexual selection.
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Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Sunday, March 15, 2009
Tha Last Few Years
02.13.09
I'm ok- I'm actually recovering from open heart surgery. I got pneumonia, which went into my blood stream and then caused an infection in my heart.. So they opened me up, cleaned up the infection and here I am 2 weeks later wondering what the hell happened. this is actually the 4th time I've almost died- when i got to the ER my blood pressure was 40/24- so I'm really trying to pay attention. I figure there is something for me to do and I am being shown to get on with it! My big 2 year plan that started in January is to get really healthy and in 2 years go to live in Africa. I worked for years with teens in inpatient psych and ran a boarding school as well, in Ma. I guess its just a natural instinct to know what to say and to have an abundance of compassion and love for people. For most of the last 20 years I went to Art school first and have lived mostly as an artist. I've continued to work with people throughout this time and have worked with elderly people as a caregiver, for the last 2 1/2 years. One of my favorites was a retired engineer who was a pilot in WW2 and Korea. He was wonderful and died after I was with him for 11 months. He had a military funeral that was beautiful. The last person I worked with was this amazing 82 yr old woman, Isabel. She is a peace activist and 30 years ago used to organize sit ins in front of businesses that wouldn't allow black people. She also started a non profit called" Homeward Bound", originally started 30 years ago to help addicts coming out of prison. It has evolved into a 150 bed hospital, treating addicts, homeless people with HIV and others and still works with people coming out of jail. She had a broken hip and says she healed so fast because we laughed so much. She is truly amazing and has become a good friend..
In 1998, i lived in Guatemala off and on for a year, traveling and doing volunteer work. God, i love that place! Several years later my housemate Mindy decided to adopt so i put her in touch with friends there affiliated with an orphanage. 7 months later Luna came home to Dallas. She is the most amazing creature!She turns 7 in April and is just a joy. When she was about 2 they moved to NYC for Mindy's job and the cultural opportunities for Luna. I went too for awhile and was Luna's nanny- we had so much fun!I try to go every year and hang out with Luna. Its so great to watch her grow. They go to Guatemala every couple of years to keep her in touch with where she came from- its a really beautiful country.
I've wanted to go to Africa since i was a teenager, and the desire has only grown over the years. when i see the kids who have no parents and are dying or living with HIV I just can't stand it. I really don't know what i will do for them there but I'll figure it out- even if its just holding their hand and taking care of them. I feel so strongly about his that there. I think i was born to go to Africa!
I'm ok- I'm actually recovering from open heart surgery. I got pneumonia, which went into my blood stream and then caused an infection in my heart.. So they opened me up, cleaned up the infection and here I am 2 weeks later wondering what the hell happened. this is actually the 4th time I've almost died- when i got to the ER my blood pressure was 40/24- so I'm really trying to pay attention. I figure there is something for me to do and I am being shown to get on with it! My big 2 year plan that started in January is to get really healthy and in 2 years go to live in Africa. I worked for years with teens in inpatient psych and ran a boarding school as well, in Ma. I guess its just a natural instinct to know what to say and to have an abundance of compassion and love for people. For most of the last 20 years I went to Art school first and have lived mostly as an artist. I've continued to work with people throughout this time and have worked with elderly people as a caregiver, for the last 2 1/2 years. One of my favorites was a retired engineer who was a pilot in WW2 and Korea. He was wonderful and died after I was with him for 11 months. He had a military funeral that was beautiful. The last person I worked with was this amazing 82 yr old woman, Isabel. She is a peace activist and 30 years ago used to organize sit ins in front of businesses that wouldn't allow black people. She also started a non profit called" Homeward Bound", originally started 30 years ago to help addicts coming out of prison. It has evolved into a 150 bed hospital, treating addicts, homeless people with HIV and others and still works with people coming out of jail. She had a broken hip and says she healed so fast because we laughed so much. She is truly amazing and has become a good friend..
In 1998, i lived in Guatemala off and on for a year, traveling and doing volunteer work. God, i love that place! Several years later my housemate Mindy decided to adopt so i put her in touch with friends there affiliated with an orphanage. 7 months later Luna came home to Dallas. She is the most amazing creature!She turns 7 in April and is just a joy. When she was about 2 they moved to NYC for Mindy's job and the cultural opportunities for Luna. I went too for awhile and was Luna's nanny- we had so much fun!I try to go every year and hang out with Luna. Its so great to watch her grow. They go to Guatemala every couple of years to keep her in touch with where she came from- its a really beautiful country.
I've wanted to go to Africa since i was a teenager, and the desire has only grown over the years. when i see the kids who have no parents and are dying or living with HIV I just can't stand it. I really don't know what i will do for them there but I'll figure it out- even if its just holding their hand and taking care of them. I feel so strongly about his that there. I think i was born to go to Africa!
Wednesday, March 4, 2009
Pathocracy- from a book written in 1985
The rule of and organizational or national entity by non-sane persons or person passing as sane, often undiagnosed and untreated, characterized by:
1. The taking of power initially by non-legal or pseudo legal means;
2. The confusion of verbal criticism, dissent and protest with overt acts of high treason. { Saying it is as bad as doing it.}
3. The rounding- up and detention or liquidation of innocent persons characterized by enemies of the people, or other subjectively determined pejorative labels.
4. A hypocritical, cynical betrayal of the ostensible organizational or national goals on the part of the administration once their power is consolidated.
5.The use of high sounding "good intentions" as a cover for the administration's self indulgent. counter productive policies.
6. Temporary success in concealing the pathological nature of the rulers and their policies from the rulees and from other entities.
7. Impotence on the part of other entities to combat rationally the non rational accusations and behavior of the pathocrats.
8. the use of pejorative words to designate those who do not subscribe to the prevailing sickness, such as: war criminals, class enemies, enemies of the people, useless persons, genetic inferiors, etc.
9. THE CREATION OF ARTIFICIAL CRISIS IN ORDER TO MOBILIZE AND SUBJUGAT THE RULEES.
10. THE SUSPENSION OF CIVILIZED MODES OF CONDUCT IN THE INTEREST OF SOME NON-RATIONAL :HIGHER PURPOSE."
11. THE ESTABLISHMENT OF HIGH SOUNDING GOALS OR OTHER NON- RATIONAL COVER STORIES AS A MEANS OF DECEIVING THE POPULACE BEING RULED.
12. A COVERT PURPOSE OF MAINTAINING THE POWER OF INCUMBENTS TO THE DETRIMENT OF THE PUBLIC WELL BEING.
13. A manifest inadequacy to govern in the entity's behalf.
14. The tolerance of incompetent administrators and the elimination of rational ones.
15.the preference of non-rational delusional thought system to common sense, civility and common decency.
16. The systematic conviction that the non-rational ends justifies the employment of inhumane means.
17. The use of threats, bluffs, bullying and temper tantrums when it is unable to get its way through cajoling and manipulation.
18. the delusion that other entities aredelude, weak and foolish.
19. The delusion that its non-rational goals are superior to to the goals of other entities.
20. The systematic confusion of cooperation with submission.
21. The systematic , conscious use of non-factual information in the service of the high sounding ideal.
HITLER, BUSH OR BOTH.
1. The taking of power initially by non-legal or pseudo legal means;
2. The confusion of verbal criticism, dissent and protest with overt acts of high treason. { Saying it is as bad as doing it.}
3. The rounding- up and detention or liquidation of innocent persons characterized by enemies of the people, or other subjectively determined pejorative labels.
4. A hypocritical, cynical betrayal of the ostensible organizational or national goals on the part of the administration once their power is consolidated.
5.The use of high sounding "good intentions" as a cover for the administration's self indulgent. counter productive policies.
6. Temporary success in concealing the pathological nature of the rulers and their policies from the rulees and from other entities.
7. Impotence on the part of other entities to combat rationally the non rational accusations and behavior of the pathocrats.
8. the use of pejorative words to designate those who do not subscribe to the prevailing sickness, such as: war criminals, class enemies, enemies of the people, useless persons, genetic inferiors, etc.
9. THE CREATION OF ARTIFICIAL CRISIS IN ORDER TO MOBILIZE AND SUBJUGAT THE RULEES.
10. THE SUSPENSION OF CIVILIZED MODES OF CONDUCT IN THE INTEREST OF SOME NON-RATIONAL :HIGHER PURPOSE."
11. THE ESTABLISHMENT OF HIGH SOUNDING GOALS OR OTHER NON- RATIONAL COVER STORIES AS A MEANS OF DECEIVING THE POPULACE BEING RULED.
12. A COVERT PURPOSE OF MAINTAINING THE POWER OF INCUMBENTS TO THE DETRIMENT OF THE PUBLIC WELL BEING.
13. A manifest inadequacy to govern in the entity's behalf.
14. The tolerance of incompetent administrators and the elimination of rational ones.
15.the preference of non-rational delusional thought system to common sense, civility and common decency.
16. The systematic conviction that the non-rational ends justifies the employment of inhumane means.
17. The use of threats, bluffs, bullying and temper tantrums when it is unable to get its way through cajoling and manipulation.
18. the delusion that other entities aredelude, weak and foolish.
19. The delusion that its non-rational goals are superior to to the goals of other entities.
20. The systematic confusion of cooperation with submission.
21. The systematic , conscious use of non-factual information in the service of the high sounding ideal.
HITLER, BUSH OR BOTH.
Sunday, March 1, 2009
10 things you should know about Obama's plan (but probably don't)
The plan:
- Makes a $634 billion down payment on fixing health care that will go a long way toward paying for a more efficient, more affordable health care system that covers every single American.3
- Reduces taxes for 95% of working Americans. And if your family makes less than $250,000, your taxes won't go up one dime.4
- Invests more than $100 billion in clean energy technology, creating millions of green jobs that can never be outsourced.5
- Brings our troops home from Iraq on a firm timetable, finally bringing the war to a close—and freeing up almost ten billion dollars a month for domestic priorities.6
- Reverses growing income inequality. The plan lets the Bush tax cuts for the wealthiest Americans expire and focuses on strengthening the middle class.7
- Closes multi-billion-dollar tax loopholes for big oil companies. 8
- Increases grants to help families pay for college—the largest increase ever.9
- Halves the deficit by 2013. President Obama inherited a legacy of huge deficits and an economy in shambles, but his plan brings the deficit under control as soon as the economy begins to recover.10
- Dramatically increases funding for the SEC and the CFTC—the agencies that police Wall Street.11
- Tells it straight. For years, budgets have used accounting tricks to hide the real costs of the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan, the Bush tax cuts, and too many other programs. Obama's budget gets rid of the smokescreens and lays out what America's priorities are, what they cost, and how we're going to pay for them.
Friday, February 27, 2009
The Others
I was talking to an old friend from Galveston today. She said after the hurricane all she could do was focus on herself and after a while, she thought this isn't good. You can't stay focused on just yourself and I find that is exactly what I've been doing too.
I was so angry today at the doctor and every time I talked about it my anxiety level went up and that is NOT A GOOD THING FOR ME RIGHT NOW. I know I have to continue to deal, but then I'm going to let stuff go and focus on the positive as there are so many positives surrounding all of us.
I always make friends with the hospital staff simple because I treat them with respect and show interest in them. It takes so little effort to show someone you care and makes all the difference in your interactions. Just asking someone how their day is going is often a huge change from what people often hear.
The other thing is that I thought I never wanted to be one of those old people who talked about their various illnesses and here I am, only 53 and already doing it. I feel like the more I talk about it the more power I give it and so from now on I'm going to focus more on the "what I'm doing to get healthy."--goddamnit!!!! I love that word because it is so shocking to so many people and it really means nothing at all.
It truly is amazing to me the people I have run into in my quest for health. They are all such good people and the majority of them really just want to help you. There is, of course, the occasional asshole or control freak, and I think to myself- if thats the way you need to act to feel good about yourself then go for it because it has nothing to do with me and does not effect me unless I choose to let it. This is sometime easier said than done, but, as with most things, practice will make it easier.
I was so angry today at the doctor and every time I talked about it my anxiety level went up and that is NOT A GOOD THING FOR ME RIGHT NOW. I know I have to continue to deal, but then I'm going to let stuff go and focus on the positive as there are so many positives surrounding all of us.
I always make friends with the hospital staff simple because I treat them with respect and show interest in them. It takes so little effort to show someone you care and makes all the difference in your interactions. Just asking someone how their day is going is often a huge change from what people often hear.
The other thing is that I thought I never wanted to be one of those old people who talked about their various illnesses and here I am, only 53 and already doing it. I feel like the more I talk about it the more power I give it and so from now on I'm going to focus more on the "what I'm doing to get healthy."--goddamnit!!!! I love that word because it is so shocking to so many people and it really means nothing at all.
It truly is amazing to me the people I have run into in my quest for health. They are all such good people and the majority of them really just want to help you. There is, of course, the occasional asshole or control freak, and I think to myself- if thats the way you need to act to feel good about yourself then go for it because it has nothing to do with me and does not effect me unless I choose to let it. This is sometime easier said than done, but, as with most things, practice will make it easier.
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
LIFE/DEATH
Its midnight and I can't sleep. my heart is beating so fast that its keeping me awake- either that or the fear of dying, or both. My new Doc told me today I still have this Atrial Flutter which is causing my heart rate to be 135 beats a minute as opposed to 72 beats a minute. Its scary because I can feel it- the flutter and the rapid heart beat. He is going to try and treat it with meds and if that doesn't work I'll have to go back into the hospital for another procedure. This one doesn't sound nearly as bad, but they'll still have to go up into my heart- again. FUCK! It just freaks me out. I have wonderful, supportive friends but when it comes right down to it you're alone- someone said we all die alone and I suppose thats true. I feel like I'm fighting the most important battle of my life and it is really hard as hell- but I'm determined to win because there are things I still want to do, need to do. This Doctor told me he feels that alot of this is genetic and of course from smoking. Thank god I finally quit smoking and that I never had kids so I haven't passed this on!
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Sunday, February 22, 2009
Again With the Dallas Morning News
I've got to not read this paper- it just infuriates me half the time. I was at a diner having dinner and decided to read the copy someone left in the booth.
This article was by some woman going on and on about how terrible Facebook is and about having embarrassing photos of yourself posted, etc. The more I read it, it became clear to me that this person is a bit on the paranoid side and she is ashamed of whatever it is she does.
I actually brought this part of the paper home so I could write a letter to the editor and then left it in my jeans pocket and washed it and, oh well, I'm sure as hell not going out to get another paper, hence this rant!
I enjoy the hell out of Facebook. I've been in touch with people I've not seen in 35 years and love getting to know them again and how they're doing. In this crazy world it is a joy to see what your friends are up to because there often just isn't enough time for a call or text. Next,if you don't know it by now you need to learn it- NEVER do anything you don't want people to know about because someone always finds out. Rather, be comfortable in your own skin and if a friend posts a photo of you drunk or whatever, big deal- its not the end of the world, no children have been hurt and by god, you're human and thats ok.
So to this writer I would say, " Get some professional help and learn to be ok with yourself, unless of course you're a serial killer and that's so not cool!"
This article was by some woman going on and on about how terrible Facebook is and about having embarrassing photos of yourself posted, etc. The more I read it, it became clear to me that this person is a bit on the paranoid side and she is ashamed of whatever it is she does.
I actually brought this part of the paper home so I could write a letter to the editor and then left it in my jeans pocket and washed it and, oh well, I'm sure as hell not going out to get another paper, hence this rant!
I enjoy the hell out of Facebook. I've been in touch with people I've not seen in 35 years and love getting to know them again and how they're doing. In this crazy world it is a joy to see what your friends are up to because there often just isn't enough time for a call or text. Next,if you don't know it by now you need to learn it- NEVER do anything you don't want people to know about because someone always finds out. Rather, be comfortable in your own skin and if a friend posts a photo of you drunk or whatever, big deal- its not the end of the world, no children have been hurt and by god, you're human and thats ok.
So to this writer I would say, " Get some professional help and learn to be ok with yourself, unless of course you're a serial killer and that's so not cool!"
Bush's in Dallas
I read in the Dallas Morning News yesterday that people here are welcoming the Bush's home and I felt somewhat nauseous.
I, for one, am embarrassed and disheartened that people are welcoming a war criminal to their city- one responsible for tens of thousands of innocent deaths. It disgusts me. I pray I never run into him and I doubt I would. I guess there are still those 27% who believe the man did a good job and didn't run this country into the ground, even as they are losing their jobs, their money and their children in a totally useless war. Good luck Mr. Bush, trying to raise money for your library- maybe the oil companies will finance it, maybe not!
I, for one, am embarrassed and disheartened that people are welcoming a war criminal to their city- one responsible for tens of thousands of innocent deaths. It disgusts me. I pray I never run into him and I doubt I would. I guess there are still those 27% who believe the man did a good job and didn't run this country into the ground, even as they are losing their jobs, their money and their children in a totally useless war. Good luck Mr. Bush, trying to raise money for your library- maybe the oil companies will finance it, maybe not!
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